Banishing the Loneliness with Light

It was almost Chanukah. The end of a long day of work and childcare. My two kids, ages four and five, were finally asleep, and I had collapsed on the couch to read for a few minutes before tackling the laundry and the dishes. Shivering, I pulled my sweater more closely around me; winter had […]

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Friday Nights at Home: A New Approach to Shabbos

“Should we eat at home this week?” I ask my kids on Monday night. Five days to go till Shabbos. My question is rhetorical, since the final call is mine, but since we’re a threesome, they’re usually consulted too. Shabbos means different things for us than it does for the average Jewish home. Soon after […]

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You’re Not My Mother!

Remarried or considering remarrying? Stepmoms in the trenches share their takes on common stepparenting scenarios in the following article from Mishpacha magazine. Blended families can be beautiful, but they also entail endless hard work, grueling avodas hamiddos, and many extra responsibilities. Check out what these experienced stepmoms do when a sticky stepparenting situation arises — […]

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Ex-Daughter-in-Law: Post-Divorce In-Law Relationships

The first time I met my future mother-in-law, in an upscale Jerusalem restaurant, she told me, “I’ve been waiting 20 years to meet my daughter.” As a mother of three boys, she took me into her heart – and her home – unconditionally. I was to call her Mom, my father-in-law Dad. My picture was […]

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The Song of Kabbalas HaTorah: A Shavuos Diary

 Shavuos 2004 My first yom tov married! Nesanel and I decided to stay home so he could learn in yeshivah at night. I made my first roast ever – followed the cookbook instructions to the letter, because Mommy’s were too vague. Also cabbage kugel, health salad, creamy baked fish, and chocolate cheesecake. Somehow I benched […]

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Introducing Healing from the Break, The Frum Divorce Blog

Divorced? Looking for some handholding? We’re here to help. Divorce is tough. Especially in the frum world, divorce is a shock to the system, throwing us into the vast unknown. Where do I go first? How do I navigate my new reality? There’s so much to learn and assimilate. While there are many resources out […]

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Rekindling the Joy: Chanukah on Our Own

The first Chanukah after my divorce, I looked at my two sons, four and five years old at the time, and said, “It’s just you and me, guys.” “Okay, Mommy,” they chorused. They were too young to understand what I meant. Too young to remember Chanukahs past, Chanukahs from when our family circle included a […]

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Everyone’s Nebach

On Yom Tov, I welcomed one of my friends, a single mother and her children, to my sukkah. In the course of the conversation, she mentioned that she had received an unusual number of invitations for the meals this yom tov. I showed her the Hamodia article on divorced families that had appeared several weeks […]

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